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Becoming a Man

Over the last year I have been away from home on two different occasions. As many of you know Amy and I have four kids, 3 girls and 1 boy. Each time I have been away I used it as an opportunity to help my one son, Noah to become a man. One of my desires for Noah is that he becomes a responsible young man and that he also becomes chivalrous. I want him to know that it is a good and honorable thing to take care of women and to serve them. Even at the young age of six I want him to know that he has a responsibility to his family to care for them.

Each time before I left I had a conversation with Noah about his responsibility to the women of the house while I was gone. That because I was gone he was now the man of the house and it was his job to make life easier for everyone else and to serve the girls. As I shared this with him I took time to tell him what this looked like. I even asked him what he thought it meant and how this looked. To my surprise Noah had a really good idea of what it meant. As I wrapped up the conversation with him I told him that I would be asking him how it was going and how he was taking care of the family when I talked with him on the phone.

Noah is growing into a fine young man! Both times he took his role very seriously and did more than usually around the house to help Amy and his sisters. These are a couple of the things that represent how Noah took on the responsibility. When Amy was doing laundry he would carry the basket of clothes for his her. He also took on the responsibility of collecting all the trash and wheeling the 96 gallon trash bin out to the road. Noah isn’t that big yet so that is quite the job. A final example is the 10 foot bundle of sticks that he dragged to the road after his grandpa cleaned up one of our bushes. I am so proud of Noah and the servant he is becoming.

After each trip I made sure that I got him something that represented the young man he was becoming and to let him know that I was proud of how he stepped up to help his mom and sisters. This fall when I was in Seattle I picked up a sheriff’s badge for him, which he still keeps by his bed. This time while I was in England I decided to get him a Swiss Army Knife. To all those worried that I got him a knife at six, don’t be. The knife is made to be dull so that he can’t hurt himself. My prayer is that these small gifts will remind him of the man his is becoming!

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Becoming a Man


Over the last year I have been away from home on two different occasions. As many of you know Amy and I have four kids, 3 girls and 1 boy. Each time I have been away I used it as an opportunity to help my one son, Noah to become a man. One of my desires for Noah is that he becomes a responsible young man and that he also becomes chivalrous. I want him to know that it is a good and honorable thing to take care of women and to serve them. Even at the young age of six I want him to know that he has a responsibility to his family to care for them.

Each time before I left I had a conversation with Noah about his responsibility to the women of the house while I was gone. That because I was gone he was now the man of the house and it was his job to make life easier for everyone else and to serve the girls. As I shared this with him I took time to tell him what this looked like. I even asked him what he thought it meant and how this looked. To my surprise Noah had a really good idea of what it meant. As I wrapped up the conversation with him I told him that I would be asking him how it was going and how he was taking care of the family when I talked with him on the phone.

Noah is growing into a fine young man! Both times he took his role very seriously and did more than usually around the house to help Amy and his sisters. These are a couple of the things that represent how Noah took on the responsibility. When Amy was doing laundry he would carry the basket of clothes for his her. He also took on the responsibility of collecting all the trash and wheeling the 96 gallon trash bin out to the road. Noah isn’t that big yet so that is quite the job. A final example is the 10 foot bundle of sticks that he dragged to the road after his grandpa cleaned up one of our bushes. I am so proud of Noah and the servant he is becoming.

After each trip I made sure that I got him something that represented the young man he was becoming and to let him know that I was proud of how he stepped up to help his mom and sisters. This fall when I was in Seattle I picked up a sheriff’s badge for him, which he still keeps by his bed. This time while I was in England I decided to get him a Swiss Army Knife. To all those worried that I got him a knife at six, don’t be. The knife is made to be dull so that he can’t hurt himself. My prayer is that these small gifts will remind him of the man his is becoming!

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Oxford and Other Thoughts

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Well I have been in England for a little over a week and tomorrow I will get back on a plane to Ohio. I must admit that I could not be more excited to get back to Ohio. Before talking about why there are a couple other tidbits to share.

First my stay in England has been wonderful! The Caton’s have blessed me so much over the last week. The work of God in their lives comes through in their hospitality. The only thing that could have made the time better would have been to have Amy here as well! I have been blessed by watching them love and raise their two precious little girls, who are learning well what it means to love people from their parents(by the way interacting with them everyday made me miss my own children so much). I will always be thankful for any time that I get to share with the Caton’s during this short life on earth!

Second today will be a lot of fun checking out Oxford. Perhaps I might even feel a bit smarter walking around the city! While in Oxford we will go to Christ’s Church and Eagle and Child, a pub that C.S. Lewis and Tolkien spent time hashing things out. There is something about being surrounded by so much history that causes me to reflect and learn lessons from the past. I expect that today will be very contemplative and a day in which I spend time thanking God for so many blessings in my life.

I am thankful that although Steve and Sarah are Americans they have tried to get me to experience much from British culture. Here are just a few of the things that have tweaked my brain in England. They have roundabouts which are fun but then they traffic lights for pedestrian crossings. That is different for me. Then when they talk about pies it probably has meat in it, that was confusing. Houses and living space are much smaller here but yet just like Americans they have more in their little house than they need. Most do not use their Garage for a car but for storage, just like home. Everyone calls their backyard a garden. This seems to sound much more fancy but they are backyards just like home. The final thought to note is that English tea is not all that exciting. I am glad that they have their tea and we have our coffee. There are more but that is enough for now. England is a wonderful place I am better for being able to spend some time here.

Why am I missing Ohio so much you may be asking yourself. Truly there is not a whole lot that is special about Ohio. First I deeply miss my family. I miss conversation with them and I miss their physical touch. I can not wait to scoop each of my children in my arms and give them each a big bear hug. I can not wait to lay down in bed and hold Amy in my arms. I can not wait to share with her all I have learned and experienced while here.

The second reason I miss Ohio so much is because of the church. I am blessed to share my life with so many wonderful people. I am so excited to gather with them on Sunday and then on Wednesday and catch up on life. To hear how things are going and how God has been at work in their lives. I am excited to sit with some of the church and hash through the things I have experienced and how it will impact my life and ministry. A dear brother and sister of mine have moved into a new house and I can not wait to see it. I am so excited for them. Some day my family and I will probably be called away from Centerville, OH and when that day comes although we will be excited our hearts will grieve leaving such amazing family.

As I sit in Starbucks and wrap up this post I am compelled to finish by talking about someone special. Even as I think about this person I am brought to tears because they mean so much to me. Thank you Amy for loving me and supporting me in all I do. You have handled this time with me away with such grace and strength. I know we have missed each other so much but you are willing to sacrifice and take on so much because of God’s directing our lives. You are an amazing woman who lives her life to honor God…Thank you! I love you and will see you in a couple of days!

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Church

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Amy, Alexa, and Emma had a girls night last night and sent me this crazy picture! As a father away from home I am so grateful to get pictures like this that allow you to see your family is not only okay but doing great while you are away from home.

As I woke up and looked at this picture that was waiting for me I could not help but be thankful for the church we are a part of. This week when I would call Amy there have been numerous times that the church has been there or been encouraging Amy in some way. They have done things like staying the night with her, watching the kids, going out to eat, including her and the kids in mother’s days plan, and just plan hanging out. These things have made the trip go much faster for Amy and helped the kids have a lot of fun. These are truly the things that make the bride of Christ so beautiful and amazing. Praise the Lord for not only saving me but also bringing me into a new family.

I know for some the church brings back painful memories for some reason or another or it brings back memories of long and boring services. To the second I would say I am sorry that you have not been able to experience the beauty and wonder of the bride. To the first I apologize that you have been through such a painful ordeal with the church. To both I would encourage you to go back to the Bible to see what it says about the church and what it is to be like. Then begin being the church recognizing that it isn’t a service or social club but rather it is us who have come to Christ. When we come to know and trust Jesus not only is our relationship with God restored but we are also given a new family that we are to invest in. Be the catalyst that gets your church loving each other more and gets them to spend time together doing the things they do in everyday life. Do something as simple as invite someone to dinner this week.

Lord thank you for the Bride that my family and I are a part of. Thank you for the church I have been fellowshipping with this past week in England. I have learned much and been encouraged to grow with Jesus more.

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Why I run.

First if you would like to know more about 5k for 25 days then click here: 5k for 25 days

Yesterday I felt the need to do an update that isn’t so much an update but that is more of an explanation. I want to take a couple moments and lay out what has compelled me to do this “5k for 25 days”. Why would I take so much time out of this Christmas season to do this? I realized that if I fail to make the reasons why clear then I have failed at giving credit to whom credit is due.

There are three reasons specifically that led to me pursuing this little adventure but the first reason is the one that is the foundation for the other two. The first reason that I have been compelled to run and is essentially the reason that makes all other reasons valid is Jesus Christ. The Bible teaches that God sent His only Son, Jesus to the world to die for humanity. To die for our sins and take upon Himself the wrath of God to pay for all of our sins (John 3:16; Eph. 2:1-10). At about the age of five I confessed my sin and trusted Christ as my Savior. Now my life because of what He has done is lived for His glory. My prayer is that the way I live my life is a testimony to the majesty of God and His Son Jesus. So I run that God my receive all the glory. If His son had not come then I would not love nor care to do something like this.

The second reason that I run is that Christ has laid a burden on my heart for human trafficking and to join the fight against it. The slavery of individuals who were created by God in His image is an atrocity. Especially in regards to the children who are forced into sexual slavery. As a follower of Jesus Christ I am called to seek the Kingdom of God and in God’s kingdom justice reigns. I am drawn to see justice and justice is the freeing of individuals from slavery and the wicked punished. As God’s child not only am I called to seek His kingdom but I must also spread the gospel of Jesus Christ. If these individuals are freed physically that is a good thing, but if they are also freed spiritually by coming to Jesus Christ then that is a wonderful thing. Jesus calls me to not only fight for their freedom physically but also and more importantly their freedom spiritually. So I run secondly for freedom.

The final major reason I run is because of my family. God has blessed me with an amazing wife and four incredible children. As a husband and father I long for them also to know Jesus and to value the things of Jesus. I have learned in my short life that I pass things on to my kids best by how I live. So I run that they may see how important it is to sacrifice for others. Jesus paid the ultimate sacrifice that we might have life and so I am called to sacrifice that others might come to know the love of Jesus. First and foremost this responsibility is to my children. I pray that they would seek Jesus and pursue the dreams and passions that He has given them. As a dad I pray that I will always support them in their dreams encourage them to have the faith that God can and will do great things through them. I hope that this 5k for 25 days will be an example to them.

So for those of you who may ask why is Wade running? The answer: Christ died for me and I want all of my life to bring glory to Him. I do not run because I am anything special but because God is great in me!

To God alone be the glory!!!!

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God: a better parent

This taken from “Think Orange” written by Reggie Joiner. He reminds us that God is God and that we need to trust Him with our kids.

“I am not trying to make them happy;
I want them to really live.

In the middle of their pain,
I can be a better friend than anyone,
even you.

I am the only one who can really
love them unconditionally,
forgive them forever,
and be a perfect Father.

So maybe you just need to trust Me
enough so they can see Me.

Besides…
with all your issues,
I think it’s probably better
for them to trust Me more
than they trust you.

Isn’t it more important for them
to love Me more
than they love you?

I can heal their hearts;
you can’t.

I can give them eternal life;
You can’t.

I am God;
you’re not.”

Pg 56 “Think Orange”

May each of us realize the truth of this as we seek to raise our kids to love and know God! Parenting can be scary, in those times we need to trust God more!

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A Graduate…Now What?

Last week I finally graduated from Southern Seminary with my Master’s of Divinity from the Billy Grahm School.  Hard to believe that now after three years in Louisville and one year in Dayton that it is done.  Honestly last week as I finished there kept being this sense of now what.  The reality is that I am still employed by Starbucks with no real paid, full-time ministry opportunities in sight.  At one time this was my greatest fear, that I would end seminary and have no idea what I would be doing.  I put a lot of effort into figuring this out, only to have the Lord in the end say no.  This was extremely difficult and depressing as I longed to know where I would be serving after seminary, after all we had spent all this time and money to do something.  God is truly amazing!  He has used this last year in Dayton to reveal to me that ministry is not a job but rather it flows out of who we are.  For instance if I need a “job at a church” to be in ministry then I have lost sight of what God has called believers to. If I can not get in and get my hands dirty now then when I have a job will I be doing ministry at a church as a job or as a calling. So now rather than focusing on where I will be ministering in the future, my heart is to simply do ministry where we are and allow God to move as he sees fit.  This has been a long journey for myself but it has been valuable. For now we are serving at Morningstar Baptist church in Centerville until God moves us on.  We love the people there and long to see the community reached so until that time we find it a great privilege and blessing from God to be there!

The issue for me at this time is laziness!  When I have school deadlines it is so easy to stay motivated and to be studying and growing.  But now there is nothing to drive me to be studying and nothing driving me to read.  At night it becomes easy to lay around and not do much.  Without the pressure of deadlines the sleepiness overwhelms me.  By God’s grace and the driving of His Spirit I must dig in and stay active in my studies and reading.  There is much on my mind to do and accomplish, plus many books on my reading list.  The other thing is that as I become lazy (sin) it then begins to open the door for other temptations so I also recognize how important it is to be faithful and diligent.  God is amazing so I am excited to see how he helps me grow through this time.

The other thing that I am looking forward to doing now that school is done to do expand the amount of time that I am spending with the Lord.  I am looking forward to setting up a Bible reading plan, spending more time meditating on the Word and setting more time aside for prayer.  I understand that the ministry that I have to my family and to others will only be as strong as my relationship with Jesus.  What is the one thing that I have to offer to people? JESUS!  What is the only way that I can give them Jesus?  By walking with Jesus myself! When I am close with Him, He most brightly shines through me. So Jesus here I come!

The final thing on my mind as I am now a graduate is Amy and the kids.  Over the last four years there are a lot of things that we have not been able to do or things I have had to miss because of studies or school! I am excited to be able to have a day off and spend it with the family without thinking about the ten things that I have to get done. I am excited to not have to run off to study or write a paper all the time but instead to go outside and run around with the kids.  I am excited to give Amy some mornings of sleeping in, which she more than deserves. God has been so good to us as we have been on this journey really drawing us close as a family. I have an amazing wife and three incredible kids and I do not want to miss out on their lives anymore!

A Graduate…now what?  Just a normal guy! A family man! A follwer of Jesus!  Just wanting to be faithful in the moment! Hoping to see God do amazing things in the lives of others! Thank you Jesus for everything!

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